3.25.2008

Differences and Arguments

There is nothing wrong with not wanting children. It doesn’t hurt me a bit if you don’t want them and never have them. What is harmful is bashing those who choose a lifestyle that is different than yours – regardless of the issue at hand. Making fun of people’s life choices and being intentionally hurtful is wrong. It is wrong if you are targeting homosexuals. It is wrong if you are targeting a specific race or religion. It is wrong if you are targeting childfree people. It is wrong if you are targeting parents of premature babies. And it is wrong if the target is people who choose to have children.


I don’t know where all of the ugliness is coming from, but it is out there, and it is cruel, and thoughtless. It is not just the anti-child advocates, but the parents retaliating are guilty as well. I am embarrassed to be part of world where we behave like this...where we can no longer find a civil way to express ourselves and discuss our differences like adults.


Remember to be gentle with yourself and others. We are all children of chance and none can say why some fields will blossom while others lay brown beneath the August sun. Care for those around you. Look past your differences. Their dreams are no less than yours, their choices no more easily made. And give, give in any way you can, of whatever you posses. To give is to love. To withhold is to wither. Care less for your harvest than for how it is shared and your life will have meaning and your heart will have peace. – Kent Nerburn